My husband's father sexually abused him from the time he was in 7th grade until the time we got married(after his senior year). My husband isn't a weak man. He just had no control. I know you guys know what I mean.

I love my mother in law to death. She's a wonderful woman, but she's so dense(sp?). She doesnt realize her husband is a pervert. I want her to be able to spend time with our baby, but I don't want him to.

It's also not just the sexual abuse. He smokes, curses and yells too much. I don't want my baby exposed to that, but I don't want to deny my mother in law the joy of her grandbaby.

I guess I just can't let the child spend the night. I know my MIL loves having her grandkids spend the night, but after the hell he put my husband through, I can't risk my child being put through that hell.